Aware or not, we are all title holders. One needs not join a beauty pageant to have a title. Perhaps you are a son/daughter, a parent to a child, a bother/sister to a sibling, a boyfriend/girlfriend to your partner, a boss to your subjects, someone’s best friend, an icon whom everyone looks up to, a champion of a noble cause, a living saint, a man in robes, a president of the republic, the campus heartthrob, the queer among your peers, the golden boy/girl, the teacher to your students, the perfect husband/wife and the list goes on.
In fact we juggle many titles at the same time. If you are a fan of Game of Thrones just like me, you may very well describe yourself pretty much like this:
Daenerys Stormborn of the House Targaryen, First of Her Name, The Unburnt, Queen of the Andals and the First Men, Khaleesi of the Great Grass Sea, Breaker of Chains, and Mother of Dragons
Being a title holder is an inescapable part of human existence. There are titles which are earned through hard work, titles that are a product of circumstance and there are those people who are born into it.
Titles can either be a privilege or a curse or even both. It can be a crown of gems or a crown of thorns. Nevertheless, it is a crown. For those who earned it by choice, it could be something worth celebrating. But others who possessed it by default it can be a great burden to carry.
Titles reflect human functionality. It is necessary. It creates order. Imagine what the world would be like if people don’t have any titles, labels or roles assigned to them. It will be a total chaos. There will be nothing to aspire to. There will be nothing else to hold us together.
The titles we wear serve as an anchor in this great sea of life. Without these titles, we may get easily lost and slipped away into darkness. It gives us a sense of identity and purpose. It gives us direction. Any direction.
But what happens when these personal anchors suddenly lost its grip on the ground? What if an event changed or challenged your stature or condition in life? What if a relationship suddenly breaks up and you cease to be someone else’s partner? What if your kids whom you’ve dedicated your entire life to grew up and build a life of their own without you? What if you need to change career that has nothing to with your college degree or previous profession? What if someone makes an unpleasant comment about you that defies everything you’ve worked so hard to achieve? What if…there can be many what ifs that can be asked and one certain answer to these questions. You will be devastated. You will be shaken off.
It is said that with great power comes great responsibility. I say that with great title comes great power and responsibility. But great responsibility comes with great expectations too. And with great expectations comes great pressure.
But how often do you meet those expectations with flying colors, really?
Do you ever wander where those expectations come from? Who sets those expectations in the first place?
Is there a right or wrong way to live out a specific role or title?
Are you defined by the titles you wear and carry or do you believe you are more than that?
And most importantly, should you fail, what becomes of you after?
Discover the answers to these questions and many other treasured insights when you attend the Discovering My Life Purpose Retreat happening on April 13-15, 2017 at Isis Women’s Resource Center in Quezon City. Part I is Coming Home to My True Self as awareness of our true self is a pre-requisite to identifying one’s lifework. To register, please fill up the form provided in the following link: https://goo.gl/k1aLxF